Our understanding of pain and loss are a lot closer to our understanding of happiness and love than we—I—like to think. It is not a coincidence that the most intensely wonderful friendships of my life formed during the most intensely awful periods. An endless becoming, a sincere commitment to “never,” the destination we’ll never reach. I will not have to make my mind up about anyone, ever. I was theirs and they were mine and maybe that would change and we would survive.
-From The Year in Found Families by Haley Mlotek